How Are Your Boundaries?
By Sharon Teitelbaum

Are you squandering time and energy because of absent or weak boundaries? Take this simple self-assessment and see how you measure up.

Answer true or false for each of these items:

1. I am generally present, wherever I am. When I’m at work, I’m 100% at work. When I’m home, I’m 100% at home. When I’m in a meeting, I’m in that meeting. When I’m with my kids, I’m with my kids. And so forth.

2. I do not spend time with people I don’t really want to spend time with.

3. I am honest with myself about what I will do and what I will not do.

4. I am clear in my communications with other people about what I will do and what I will not do.

5. I am not pressured into saying “Yes” when I want to say “No.” At work, in my community, at home, in my relationships.

6. People know that I am reliable. If I say I will do something, they know I will deliver.

7. I do not rescue other people.

8. I own my schedule. My schedule does not own me.

SCORING: True = 1 point, False = 0.

Totals:

7-8: You have strong, clear boundaries. Keep up the good work, and trust yourself to know when and where to build new boundaries or strengthen the old ones.

5-6: You have some strong boundaries and could benefit from strengthening others. Some focused work on your part could deliver huge results for you.

Under 5: You are dissipating precious focus and energy through weak or non-existent boundaries. You can make some quantum leaps in your quality of life if you choose to strengthen these boundaries.

Copyright 2002-3, by Sharon Teitelbaum, all rights reserved.

Master Certified Coach Sharon Teitelbaum is an authority on work life balance and an expert life coach to busy professionals, high achievers, people at midlife, and working parents. Her book, Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance, is a strategic, tactical guide for maintaining a sane and balanced life, distilled from her experience coaching hundreds of people.

A sought-after keynote speaker and workshop leader, Sharon has addressed such diverse audiences as Harvard Medical School Faculty, financial advisors at Merrill Lynch, and Mothers’ of Twins Clubs. She has been featured in national publications including The New York Times, Working Mother Magazine, and Forbes.com. Sharon works with individual coaching clients throughout the US and internationally by phone, or in person in the Boston area, and always offers an initial consultation at no charge. Married for thirty-plus years, she is the mother of two fabulous grown-up daughters.

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